| Son_of_Horus | 05-26-2004 08:39 PM |
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| Originally posted by YoruameBaroness So there's something medically wrong with me because I don't want to have sex? Man, your logic is screwed to hell in my humble opinion. There's nothing wrong with me medically. I just don't want to have sex. Now, back on topic. To be in love with someone does not necessarily mean you wish to have sex with them. To be in love with someone means that you care about them deeply, IMO. One can wish to express that love sexually, but that love does not have to be expressed in a sexual manner because there are other ways to express romantic love. Gah. |
If you've chosen to be "asexual" that is your prerogative.
While there may not be anything wrong with you per se, you are certainly contrary to the norm.
The two strongest urges we have are to survive and to breed and to reproduce.
That is a given... and is the nature of life on this planet.
Sometimes I just hate the English language.
Arguments like this don't even exist in cultures where there is more of an exact description of the "types of love".
In Koine Greek there are three types of love, Agape (self-sacrifice, and duty), Phileo (the way family and friends love each other), and Eros (sexual).
Being "in love" has always had "erotic" (eros) associations with it.
Now, it's unfathomable to me to even imagine being "in love" with someone without those feelings.
If I am addressed specifically by my name, gender, and a declaration of "love"
i.e.
"MAXIMILIAN" is the "MAN" I "LOVE".
There is no doubt in my mind as to what the woman is referring to.
By her decision; her words, the platonic relationship has been officially ended, at that point.
If those words were ever spoken to me (in jest, being the one exception) and that person wasn't willing to consummate the relationship, I would terminate said relationship AND the friendship ON THE SPOT.
Sorry if it makes me seem like a hairy pig, but I have no time or patience for head games with the manipulative, nor therapy sessions with the frigid and the guilt-ridden.
But then each of us has our own path we must follow according to the dictates of our own conscience, don't we?