The Crush Thread!

I did once but. I know I'm the most hated person on this forum I think.

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Originally posted by AlexRosewater I did once but. I know I'm the most hated person on this forum I think.

I doubt that. I don't think anyone here is really hated. Like most guys and women here (who are saddly the minority of the populous), you are just unappreciated by others. I haven't seen many mutual crushes, which is really sad because I really think there are some really great people here.

Yeah, no one here really IS hated. It's a remarkable little forum.

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Originally posted by Tony quote: Originally posted by AlexRosewater I did once but. I know I'm the most hated person on this forum I think. I doubt that. I don't think anyone here is really hated.

Go tell someone here (I'm not specifying the name) about me and watch his reaction. It's not pretty.

I don't know if I really like anyone anymore. I think it's because I'm afraid of what happened between me and him is going to happen again, and I kinda don't want that. So I guess, I'm just trying to stay away from that.

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Originally posted by Reki quote: Originally posted by Tony quote: Originally posted by AlexRosewater I did once but. I know I'm the most hated person on this forum I think. I doubt that. I don't think anyone here is really hated. Go tell someone here (I'm not specifying the name) about me and watch his reaction. It's not pretty. I don't know if I really like anyone anymore. I think it's because I'm afraid of what happened between me and him is going to happen again, and I kinda don't want that. So I guess, I'm just trying to stay away from that.

nothing bad come's to mind when i think of you. just let thing's that happned in the past stay their.

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Originally posted by Trotsky nothing bad come's to mind when i think of you. just let thing's that happned in the past stay their.

I suppose. I guess it's pointless to live in the past. I guess, I kinda like someone. BUt oh well.

hahah rekis got the right idea
she knows what shes talking about

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Originally posted by Reki quote: Originally posted by Tony quote: Originally posted by AlexRosewater I did once but. I know I'm the most hated person on this forum I think. I doubt that. I don't think anyone here is really hated. Go tell someone here (I'm not specifying the name) about me and watch his reaction. It's not pretty. I don't know if I really like anyone anymore. I think it's because I'm afraid of what happened between me and him is going to happen again, and I kinda don't want that. So I guess, I'm just trying to stay away from that.

Strange. I still don't think that someone hates you. He may have strong feelings towards you because of a situation that created a perpetual state of misunderstandings. I have seen this happen before and still paying for it. A person may say something that can be interpreted in many ways, the recipient may take it as an advancing a simple relationship into something romantic and complex. After the matter was ‘clarified’ and the relationship has been properly defined, then all becomes well (never as strong as it was before, but can be just as good). However, if this doesn’t occur than it can lead to uncertainty and misunderstanding. Then, every other post and PM from that person is looked upon with suspicion. This is where friendship degradation is most like to occur. Unfortunately, if there isn't immediate action by both parties, the friendship will fall victim and laid to wasted. So, if you are still on talking terms, please take the time and remedy the situation. Believe me, if I had the opportunity, I would take it.

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Originally posted by Reki quote: Originally posted by Trotsky nothing bad come's to mind when i think of you. just let thing's that happned in the past stay their. I suppose. I guess it's pointless to live in the past. I guess, I kinda like someone. BUt oh well.

You do! Tell tell!

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Originally posted by Tony quote: Originally posted by Lady Tesser Do crushes from married women count, Tony? ^_~ ** Blushes ** Flattery from a married woman is just as potent (maybe more) as from that of a single woman. One day, I hope to sweep a woman off her feet, but today I am content with a crush. Thank you.

After giving it some thought and hearing the words of other friends, I am not only flattered but honored too. I do apologize if I sounded ungreatful or unfeeling. It's just that I had one thing in mind and I got something totally different. Merci Beaucoup!

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Originally posted by Tony Strange. I still don't think that someone hates you. He may have strong feelings towards you because of a situation that created a perpetual state of misunderstandings. I have seen this happen before and still paying for it. A person may say something that can be interpreted in many ways, the recipient may take it as an advancing a simple relationship into something romantic and complex. After the matter was ‘clarified’ and the relationship has been properly defined, then all becomes well (never as strong as it was before, but can be just as good). However, if this doesn’t occur than it can lead to uncertainty and misunderstanding. Then, every other post and PM from that person is looked upon with suspicion. This is where friendship degradation is most like to occur. Unfortunately, if there isn't immediate action by both parties, the friendship will fall victim and laid to wasted. So, if you are still on talking terms, please take the time and remedy the situation. Believe me, if I had the opportunity, I would take it.

lol. Nah. He does hate me. I still won't specify the name, since I don't want anyone getting mad at me. (Hint: I used to love him and I posted it earlier in this thread)

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You do! Tell tell!

Erm....is that the doorbell ringing? j/k. It starts with a C.....you can guess the rest of it.

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Originally posted by Reki quote: Originally posted by Tony Strange. I still don't think that someone hates you. He may have strong feelings towards you because of a situation that created a perpetual state of misunderstandings. I have seen this happen before and still paying for it. A person may say something that can be interpreted in many ways, the recipient may take it as an advancing a simple relationship into something romantic and complex. After the matter was ‘clarified’ and the relationship has been properly defined, then all becomes well (never as strong as it was before, but can be just as good). However, if this doesn’t occur than it can lead to uncertainty and misunderstanding. Then, every other post and PM from that person is looked upon with suspicion. This is where friendship degradation is most like to occur. Unfortunately, if there isn't immediate action by both parties, the friendship will fall victim and laid to wasted. So, if you are still on talking terms, please take the time and remedy the situation. Believe me, if I had the opportunity, I would take it. lol. Nah. He does hate me. I still won't specify the name, since I don't want anyone getting mad at me. (Hint: I used to love him and I posted it earlier in this thread) quote: You do! Tell tell! Erm....is that the doorbell ringing?

Well, if this fellow hates you, then I am sure it is because of three reasons.

A. A misunderstanding caused by communication problems between you. Sometimes we use silence and subtle hints to insinuate something, but the message wasn't taken correctly. Being the big dumb animal that I am, I found (through help of my PCF friends) that insinuations can be the root of this kind of trouble. Don't make assumptions. If you have a question, ask him! You will be surprise of the answer you get.
B. He didn't appreciate you (or vice-versa).
C. He says he hates you because he doesn't know the proper term to described how he really feels about you.

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After giving it some thought and hearing the words of other friends, I am not only flattered but honored too. I do apologize if I sounded ungreatful or unfeeling. It's just that I had one thing in mind and I got something totally different. Merci Beaucoup!

*grins* Understand completely - it's flattering, but nothing can be done about it. You're quite a catch, Tony, and any female would be a fool to lose out on you like they have perviously.

Too bad you'd be way too old for any daughters I'd have - I'd want them married to someone like you.

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Originally posted by Tony Well, if this fellow hates you, then I am sure it is because of three reasons. A. A misunderstanding caused by communication problems between you. Sometimes we use silence and subtle hints to insinuate something, but the message wasn't taken correctly. Being the big dumb animal that I am, I found (through help of my PCF friends) that insinuations can be the root of this kind of trouble. Don't make assumptions. If you have a question, ask him! You will be surprise of the answer you get.

I did. And guess what answer I got. I got a message deleted.

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Originally posted by Reki quote: Originally posted by Tony Well, if this fellow hates you, then I am sure it is because of three reasons. A. A misunderstanding caused by communication problems between you. Sometimes we use silence and subtle hints to insinuate something, but the message wasn't taken correctly. Being the big dumb animal that I am, I found (through help of my PCF friends) that insinuations can be the root of this kind of trouble. Don't make assumptions. If you have a question, ask him! You will be surprise of the answer you get. I did. And guess what answer I got. I got a message deleted.

** hugs **

It doesn’t mean he hates you. It could mean that he didn’t know how to respond. At any rate, I know what you are going through. Believe me; I know what that feels like. But, what doesn't kill you can only maim...err... make you stronger. Just continue being yourself and one day you will find yourself in the arms of a man who truly deserves you. There is no reason to crumble up and die within your on skin. Keep the faith, sis. Your day will come.

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Originally posted by Tony ** hugs ** It doesn’t mean he hates you. It could mean that he didn’t know how to respond. At any rate, I know what you are going through. Believe me; I know what that feels like. But, what doesn't kill you can only maim...err... make you stronger. Just continue being yourself and one day you will find yourself in the arms of a man who truly deserves you. There is no reason to crumble up and die within your on skin. Keep the faith, sis. Your day will come.

Thanks. I like....C.R.....not gonna finish.

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Originally posted by Reki quote: Originally posted by Tony ** hugs ** It doesn’t mean he hates you. It could mean that he didn’t know how to respond. At any rate, I know what you are going through. Believe me; I know what that feels like. But, what doesn't kill you can only maim...err... make you stronger. Just continue being yourself and one day you will find yourself in the arms of a man who truly deserves you. There is no reason to crumble up and die within your on skin. Keep the faith, sis. Your day will come. Thanks. I like....C.R.....not gonna finish.

ahahah reki u minx ^_^
U 2 actually seem like ud make a good couple

I like the catgirl in reki's sigpic....



No, I thought I was the most hated person....wait, I RP in the Big-O thread, and they don't have a problem with it.......I WANNA BE LIKED TOO!!!!!






why can't catgirls be real? I need friends....

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Originally posted by Reki quote: Originally posted by Tony Well, if this fellow hates you, then I am sure it is because of three reasons. A. A misunderstanding caused by communication problems between you. Sometimes we use silence and subtle hints to insinuate something, but the message wasn't taken correctly. Being the big dumb animal that I am, I found (through help of my PCF friends) that insinuations can be the root of this kind of trouble. Don't make assumptions. If you have a question, ask him! You will be surprise of the answer you get. I did. And guess what answer I got. I got a message deleted.

How rude. Even I would not have done that. That's just mean and rude. (sorry for double posting)

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Originally posted by snakemarcato13 quote: Originally posted by Reki quote: Originally posted by Tony Well, if this fellow hates you, then I am sure it is because of three reasons. A. A misunderstanding caused by communication problems between you. Sometimes we use silence and subtle hints to insinuate something, but the message wasn't taken correctly. Being the big dumb animal that I am, I found (through help of my PCF friends) that insinuations can be the root of this kind of trouble. Don't make assumptions. If you have a question, ask him! You will be surprise of the answer you get. I did. And guess what answer I got. I got a message deleted. How rude. Even I would not have done that. That's just mean and rude. (sorry for double posting)

Yes, but some people don't have the proper manners or courtesy to respond to another’s remarks. If the person said he/she wasn't interested, then it is okay. You don't have to like (in a romantic way) someone who likes you. But, to keep silent or ignore a person could only mean one of three things:

1. They don't know how to respond, but intend to at a more opportune time. This, of course, can lead to misunderstandings and hurtful feelings.

2. They'd like to return the feelings but are too shy to post it so everyone can see. There is nothing wrong with it, as long as you as PM that person and give them a proper response.

3. He/She doesn't want to hurt the person's feelings because they don't share the same sentiment. There is an inherent hurt that comes with this territory. Unfortunately, silence is not the best way to handle it. It can hurt the other person in many ways. First of all, the person may feel they have to work harder for your affections. This can lead to endless attempts of trying to “win over" their interests heart. After a while of these futile attempts, the person will feel as though the have failed. This can lead to many repricusions. The worst of them all is hatred.

This is coming from a person who had a few deep crushes. Personally, I don't have shallow ones, so I don't know how to let go at the appropriate time. So, if a person doesn't tell me how they really feel about me, I can go with a crush indefinitely; and this is bad. So, to avoid this problem, it's best to tell someone how you really feel about them.