The Crush Thread!

14 and 17 is not that different. I know, I was there. Jeff is a gentleman (at least I haven't seen anything to contridict that) and he would not take advantage of Redd in any way. I remember 14 year old boys - I remember them being disgusting little *********** and I chased older guys (seems to be a theme) to not have to go through conversations about video games and bathroom humor. As long as the guy is a gentleman, then I see nothing wrong with such an age difference in the teen years.

That is what I had meant; I did not mean to cause any misunderstandings with my first statement about age.

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Originally posted by IamRogerSmith Age is pretty much a meaningless marker that only *hopes* to garuntee mental maturity with time. After you're physically mature enough, it's all based on one's mental maturity level and the connection you feel to someone... age should be no ones boundary in life.

That's exactly right...age is just a number...it really doesn't have much significance beyond how you have matured physically (one would hope mentally, but this isn't always true). Why should age really make a difference in a relationship? Two years apart, ten years apart, there isn't much difference...though I'd say once you get to the twenty year mark...

I know several people who are much older than I am, yet are some of the most immature people I've met. Conversely, I also know some people who are younger than I am who are some of the most mature people I've met!

Wisdom doesn't come with age, either...if it did, the world wouldn't be as screwed up as it is.

So then, why is it that a four year difference should be so bad, dominusofdeath? What's wrong if a fourteen-year-old girl likes an eighteen-year-old boy? Or if a twenty-year-old man and a twenty five-year-old woman fall in love and get married?

Why would that be such a crime?

Well, it *is* illegal...

Although I'm sure some younger folks can be mature about it, most will not. That's why age makes such a convenient guideline.

Aww, thanks all of you for sticking up for me... us. I consider myself mature... and Jeef is too.

And... it's not illegal (until he's 18 ) right...?

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Originally posted by Seraphim Well, it *is* illegal... Although I'm sure some younger folks can be mature about it, most will not. That's why age makes such a convenient guideline.

What's illegal? A twenty-year-old marrying a twenty-five year old? No, that's perfectly legal...there's nothing wrong with that.

An eighteen-year-old marrying a fourteen-year-old would be illegal, but I only specified "liking" in terms of that relationship...so that isn't a crime, either.

Though I must say, even if something were illegal, would that necessarily make it wrong? After all, there are a quite a few things that are illegal that I think shouldn't be...I wouldn't let a law stand in the way of my personal beliefs about something (even if it might deter me from following through on said beliefs )

Having a "normal" relationship (e.g., dating) at that age, as best as I know, isn't illegal...marrying and having a...shall we say, "passionate" relationship is, I think...

But what the law doesn't know can't hurt it... I am not supporting and/or endorsing breaking the law, but it's just my opinion that if two people are mature, in their right mind, and in love, the law shouldn't stand in the way...

Well, in other news, has anyone gotten to work on that table listing all the Paradigm relationships yet? I would, but I've been terribly bust lately...

uh oh...

jailbait...

j/k

but honestly i mean...

its a crush

i dunno...

good luck you two

hell i wish i some girl had a crush on me but NO, i have a crush on a girl but...

she only wants to be friends...

(why do girls always say that?)

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Originally posted by C.R Foxhound uh oh... jailbait... j/k but honestly i mean... its a crush i dunno... good luck you two hell i wish i some girl had a crush on me but NO, i have a crush on a girl but... she only wants to be friends... (why do girls always say that?)

Only wants to be firends...
Those are the words of death and destruction to a romantic relationship. Move on dude.

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Originally posted by Wingnut quote: Originally posted by C.R Foxhound uh oh... jailbait... j/k but honestly i mean... its a crush i dunno... good luck you two hell i wish i some girl had a crush on me but NO, i have a crush on a girl but... she only wants to be friends... (why do girls always say that?) Only wants to be firends... Those are the words of death and destruction to a romantic relationship. Move on dude.

meh...

unh...

*feels depressed*

*leaves*

If the person wielding catgirls is depressed - I don't know to WHAT this world is comming...

::does a little dance to get people happy again::

hey as Schwarzwald might say, "I speak only the TRUTH! And the truth must be known!

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Originally posted by The Fallen Phoenix What's illegal? A twenty-year-old marrying a twenty-five year old? No, that's perfectly legal...there's nothing wrong with that. An eighteen-year-old marrying a fourteen-year-old would be illegal, but I only specified "liking" in terms of that relationship...so that isn't a crime, either. Though I must say, even if something were illegal, would that necessarily make it wrong? After all, there are a quite a few things that are illegal that I think shouldn't be...I wouldn't let a law stand in the way of my personal beliefs about something (even if it might deter me from following through on said beliefs ) Having a "normal" relationship (e.g., dating) at that age, as best as I know, isn't illegal...marrying and having a...shall we say, "passionate" relationship is, I think... But what the law doesn't know can't hurt it... I am not supporting and/or endorsing breaking the law, but it's just my opinion that if two people are mature, in their right mind, and in love, the law shouldn't stand in the way... Well, in other news, has anyone gotten to work on that table listing all the Paradigm relationships yet? I would, but I've been terribly bust lately...

Yes, the said "passionate" relationship would be illegal. Statutory rape.

Also, getting onto the laws. Providing more proof for ytour analysis... Would you say Jay-Walking is immoral? It's illegal, but, gee, I wond'er what the moral implications of Jay-Walking is...

So, almost preaching civil disobediance, there, FP. It seems so, even with your "disclaimer". And, yes. But there are limits. Someone may *think* they're mature, but they may not be. But, you get into a gray area around 17. You're not really sure. The whole point of the law is to try to avoid this gray area in your proposition. They decided that around 18 you are mature enough, even though there may be exceptions. It's all relative to the person, and god now I'm ranting incoherently...

yea, "passionate" is bad at that age

but i mean if they just going out, chillin', taking in a movie, i mean, you know

then so what?

when the hell did this thread become an ethics class?

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Originally posted by C.R Foxhound when the hell did this thread become an ethics class?

About a page and a half ago.

But yeah, just normal dateing stuff, go for it you two.

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Originally posted by C.R Foxhound when the hell did this thread become an ethics class?

That usually happens when FP posts, or someone goes into philosophy or something. Usually, it continues with me agreeing with FP, or me debating the philosophy, FP jumping in, me providing more evidence, and oh no I've gone cross-eyed.

Anyway, I'm confident Redd and Jeff are sensible enough to abstain until they're ready... I mean, most everyone at these forums are well grounded.

Ack...

I think you guys are taking this much too far....

You see...Jeff lives far away from me... (he lives in NJ and I live in CA) so "dating" is not really possible... it's just a small crush over the internet...

I think that this whole crush thing has just made our friendship stronger, perhaps...

Ah, hell, i don't know what I'm saying anymore... I'm so confused...

Anyway, who's dog-boy's mystery girl? We must know!

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Originally posted by Redd Anyway, who's dog-boy's mystery girl? We must know!

who is she?

the only girl the loves me is the one in my sig...

aww crap...

she not real...

okay fine then...

the mystery woman is Rouge, there you happy...

and i wouldnt call it a "crush" so much, im just merely interested

picked up on her "scent" if you will

if we end up being friends, thats fine by me

she wouldnt like me anyway...

nobody does

Thanks everyone for showing concern, but you know, as Redd said, we live on opposite ends of the country.

*pets foxhound*
Everyone likes you here! Don't keep thinking so negatively!

No one likes me!

But that's ok.

Of course, I wouldn't mind if someone did like me!

Hmmmm, it would be interesting to check in five years and see if any of these potential relationships ever moved beyond the crush stage.

Why not, Ben? My husband and I met a message board, so it's always possible.

Rouge is a nice gal, Dog-chan - you have good taste. ^_^ *scratches behind his ears*